Wednesday, 8 January 2014

What scares you?

         Perhaps it depends on your age, and/or your experience? I say that, because I remember when I was much younger, I was often scared. As in terrified, when adrenalin would flood my body, making me shake, and the world faded from my eyes, as the blood drained from my head. It seems silly now, 
but I fainted a lot in those days. There were too many such times, when I had no idea what to do next. Feeling as if the world was about to fall on my head, so completely out of control, was I. It felt a little like being carried along, on the back of a wild, but ethereal, giant horse. Only just managing to hang on to the mane, with no saddle or anything else to cling to. So, far to fall, so little to help me stay on, it was a tough call. Maybe, those were the days when I 'expected' life to be tough, to be difficult.
          Well, you know what they say, what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger!. That must be what happened, because little frightens me now. I know what ever it is, you just do the best you can, follow through, and it will work out somehow. I have been lucky too. But then, I learnt a long time ago, that luck actually is......
           Labouring, Under, Correct, Knowledge. L.U.C.K. In other words, find out all you can about the situation, then you can make the best decision.
           Of course, I know who I am now. I have had lots of experience, and also know what I can cope with. I know I am strong, persistant, I don't give up easily, and I also expect different things. With all of those life problems, the only way to find out, what is the best way through... Just keep going. 
           If you read some of my earlier blogs, you know I believe in 'creating your own reality'. Stop expecting disasters, in fact, expect good luck, expect good opportunities. It takes a bit of practice, but then so does everything, you don't get to drive a car, without practice. Or even do your hair, or be good at your job, pass exams. Whatever, it all takes practice. 
           What started me off on this topic, I was talking to a young girl on twitter, who had experienced a nasty fright. Just something a man said, and did as she passed. A nasty habit of some men, unfortunately. He perhaps, thought he was being terrible clever, smooth, whatever. Or, perhaps he knew exactly what he was doing! It's not right though, never ok to frighten someone. I wanted to give her something, a small strength she could build on, so that she gets over being scared as easily.       
          Being vulnerable is not empowering, in fact, its the opposite. I found that acting brave, often leaks through, and makes you braver, a little braver every time. Don't slouch along, looking nervous. Walk tall, act confidently, don't take chances, of course, but don't expect trouble either. Take up meditation, it's great at helping you find your inner you, the real you. The person you can be, the person you were meant to be. When you're young, there is so much to discover...mostly about yourself. Approach it with excitement, with confidence. With each step you take, you will grow stronger, tremble less. 
            Believe me. I know, I have been there. Been in some scary situations too, but never had anything dreadful happen. Of course, you lose people, or jobs, or money, or sometimes your health. Every one of those things, must be faced, must be dealt with. Don't let the world knock you down, don't let it scare you so you don't try again.
            Think brave, act brave, and you will become brave. Laugh at stupid people, like that man. Who does he think he is? It doesn't matter what anyone thinks of you! It's what you think of yourself that's important. So ...if you have to, if you're not sure, say every day, into the mirror, I am worthwhile, I am confident. I am beautiful, I am successful, I am happy.....and, frankly, anything else you want to be, or to feel. It doesn't matter whether you are fourteen, or forty...or older.
            I guarantee, it WILL work. Stick to it, and enjoy the changes.
            Be strong, and happy out there.
             Believe in yourself!
         
         

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