If we are honest with ourselves, we all have things in our lives, we want to change. We really should change. We are tired of not doing the best we can with our life, with our self. I think we all have an inbuilt desire to better ourselves. A desire to become the best person we can be. Sometimes, though, we become a bit lost, a little confused about who we are, what is best for us. Is this who we are? Then, when we look, properly look, sometimes, after a long time, see our life, or ourself. Often, we don't like what we see. I know there have been times, when I looked at myself, and thought....who is that woman? Because I have gradually slipped into another shape, which, is nothing about body shape. It's about attitude, or difference in personality, from what you are, inside. The inner you, your soul shape. You have lost a little bit of what makes you....you!
It might be, sitting in the same poor job, or the same house, long after it ceased being good for us. Or, settled for an unhappy relationship, one that belittles, or even harms us. Perhaps we have become unhealthy, too thin, overweight, generally unwell, or just unfit. Many of these situations can cause real distress, unhappiness, even fear. The hole we are in, can seem so deep, we are not able to see a way out. Because, settling for things unnatural to us, bends us out of shape. In exactly the same way as forcing the proverbial square peg, into a round hole does. It's not only uncomfortable, but ultimately, can break the peg...which is you.
Oh, we often do it for the very best reasons, we love, try to please, or just try to fit it. Whatever the reasons, if you are not being true to yourself, sooner, or later! It breaks down, or you do!. The New Year resolution, then, is merely the tip of the iceberg. Yet it's still valid, it's still good to begin changing. Good to decide....I need to change this! This isn't good for me, or right for me. Trite as it seems, diets are the most often embarked upon, at this time of the year. Bought on, I believe by the knowledge of the over eating that has gone on, all over Christmas. At least, it is with most the people I know. Few of us continue the diet, or the resolution, long enough to make any real changes. Although some do, there are always some who make it happen. Some focused person, who succeeds, against all odds. The bigger problems in our lives, get noticed in exactly the same way though. As well as often, at the same time of the year. The New Year is a time for reflection. For new beginnings.
For year after year, we see ourselves doing the same things, building these habits we made no conscious decision about. Allowing other people, or circumstances to mould us, and our life. I. The process, becoming the type of people we did not want to be. Nor, even like very much. Many things just happen...kinda sneak up on us. Until they can become some of the bigger problems I spoke of earlier. In the end, you can not know who the hell you are, or what you are doing there. Then, it comes down to attitude, down to personal satisfaction. If there are important things in your life, that don't feel right, you must change them. Or, they become destructive.
As with New Year, make a resolution, get a plan. Small steps, baby steps...any steps away from the 'status quo', you find yourself in. Anything to begin the changes you need to make.
So, folks, do what a big percentage of us, are already doing, and take a good hard look at your life. How it impacts on the people around you. As well as how they are impacting on you. Is this the best you can do, how do you want to change things. Do you only want to discuss ideas, directions? More importantly, where do you begin?
It doesn't matter, as long as you do begin. A list can be a good way to start. A list of pro's, and con's. Everything you like in yourself, and everything you dislike. Then see which, of those need change, or you are able to change. Do the small things first, and be gentle with yourself. It doesn't have to be major. Every step that takes you closer to the real you, the person you were born to be, will, in turn help everyone around you. It's like when you are on the plane, when the oxygen masks drop down, you must put yours one first, before you help anyone else. That is just the only way to make it work. Because only then, will you be strong, will you be content. Only then will you flower into someone your loved ones, can love, can love in return.
Do remember though, and most importantly, you must love yourself. If you don't like yourself, how can others. If you don't feel worthwhile, then begin with that. Tell yourself, as many times a day as you remember....'I am worthwhile'. Get some self esteem going. Mentally, surround yourself with positive love, and light. Imagine it as something tangible, something you can see.
Soon, the resolutions you take, will seem easier, the moves, and decisions, stronger. Life can be so good.
I wonder, when next year comes, how many resolutions you will have succeeded with, and how many given up. That's the key really, one bad day, doesn't mean disaster, or failure. Keep going, and never give up.
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