Gotta keep going

        Don't weaken! Isn't that the motto many strong people live by. Or, 'whatever doesn't kill you, makes you stronger'. Or really, whatever thought, or survival instinct keeps you going, when things go wrong. After those times, when we are so sorely wounded, that we think we can never again stand upright, never continue, or worse still, never begin again. Well, I don't know about you out there, I don't suppose your experience has been so very different from mine. We all have the 'human condition' to deal with. The task of learning who we are, and how strong we are. We all have to be brave enough to love, and even braver when that love is gone, for whatever reason.

        I have heard people say, 'life is not meant to be easy'. Except, I think if that's how you view life, you will make the usual difficulties we all have to deal with, even harder. No, please don't subscribe to the theory that life is hard. Look at the glass half full, or half empty philosophy that keeps being bandied about today. It really is far better for you, for me, for everyone, if we can say it is 'the glass half full' for you. In other words, concentrate on the positive you have in your life, and not the negative. Forget what you have not got, and build on what you have! That's just common sense isn't it.

         So, for me, I have to believe it is the first quote of this blog , is probably the one I have subscribed to the most in my life. Kind of beat myself on to my feet again, pick up the pieces, and get going. Let's face it, when life knocks you down, you have two options, lay there, give up, or get up again!  Where you pick up the pieces, or start looking for new pieces, and build anew. Or, certainly to something similar to that idea. but as they say, 'each to his own', that goes for beliefs, philosophies, and the greater way you decide to live your life. Naturally, we wouldn't be human if we did not have our own version of how best to live. Our own version of right and wrong. Good and bad, the 'how' we decide we should, or want, to live. I think the main thing I keep talking of, or wittering on about in these blogs, depending on how you view my thoughts, or my words, is saying to you.....decide! Life can be easy, it can be wonderful, it can be easy...think, JOY.

         Reflect, think about your attitude to life, and is it hindering, or helping you? The glass full, or empty, the way you react to adversity, and the way you set yourself at achieving your goals. That's if you have goals of course. You would be surprised at how many of us, have no goals at all. I didn't have any for many years, or if I did they were simple. When I was little, survive a day at school,  a bit bigger, try to get through the week at home, later still, get a job, get married, have a baby. All of those normal, obvious things we expect we will all do, or should do. Things we hardly ever question, because if we do, the world as we know it, drops on our head. Not follow the rules? You must follow the rules, or at least, pretend you are. That's how most of us are programmed.

           But we can change those programmes, make our own.

         These ideas are fed to us by parents, society, they are things we are told we should be doing. Of course, your list, the one you had, depended on 'your place' in society to begin with. It might be quite different, each of us, to some extent, is the product of our upbringing. How tough, or how nurturing it was for us while we were small, and defenceless. How it prepared us for adulthood. What norms were yours, what expectations put on you, did you follow because you should, or rebel because you refused. From the time we are small, we do things for one of two reasons. One is to please, the other is to displease. These, whether we accept it or not, are out driving forces. Except, I want to tell you, it's self defeating. Break the pattern.

        Now though, you are adult, you have had some adversity, some success....I hope. You can decide how to go on from here. You are no longer bound by the expectations of when you were a small child, or you shouldn't be .....entirely.

        So please, think about your attitude, think about your words, as well as your deeds. Imagine, every thought you have, every word you speak, every deed you do is landing on a set of scales. The old fashioned ones, with two small plates, hanging from chains. All the bad things you think of, that may happen to you, all the fears of what may go wrong, or even what is going wrong already, fall on one side. Whilst all the hopes you have, the dreams, the happy things you want, the pleasant things, or people you want in your life, fall on the other side. Now whichever gets the most on, tips the balance. Do you want to get the good, or the bad falling into your lap, into your life. 

            Which way do you want your life to go? Accept, if you will, that every thought is a seed to grow that thing, that situation in your life. What will you think about, fear, talk of, imagine. The good, or the bad? Take the right decision now, to be the glass half full, or better yet imagine it completely full. You can create your life the way you want it. It may take some time, it may not happen overnight, but it will happen if you persevere. It depends how single minded you are. How much you police every bad thought, every negative fear. As well as how clever you are are at turning around less than ideal situations, and imagining them as perfect as you want them. See your life as a Utopia, why not?

           I gaurentee that a happy, positive attitude, imagining you day as you prefer it, will make your day go better, be happier. You will cope with everything easier. Eventually it WILL turn you life around. You can create your own perfect life. You can leave behind the ideals of others, and be true to yourself, and to your true inner self., your higher being. You can create the life you were meant to have, the life you deserve. You can become the person you were meant to BE! Whilst, on the way, you will be in a position to help so many more people, and to wish peace, and joy to the world. If we all do it, who is to say how we might change the outcome in the World. How peaceful might it become. How joyous.

           Begin today, thoughts are seeds, that become things. What things do you want to bring into your life? What do you not want? Now concentrate on thinking, imagining, and creating in your mind, with your words, thoughts and actions your biggest dreams, your secret wishes. Send joy into the world....and it will surely return ten fold to you.

            Be happy!