Friend, or foe...love, or lack

       Friends.....where would we be without them. It's a truth we should all recognize. We all need a good friend at some point in our life. Just as much as we ourselves need to be a good friend to those we love. A real friend is loyal, a real friend is true, a real friend can be depended on. To be there for you, when you're down. To laugh with you, when you're up. We all hope for good friends don't we? Of course we do. Not the sort who gossip about us, or let us down either.

      How good a friend are you? Mmm. Well perhaps that question can come later. First of all, let's see how friendships work. We know they can begin anywhere, anytime, any how. Even, between any age groups. Some of my best friends are in a completely different age group from me. Viva la difference, I say. In the same way I believe it's better for us to forget about how old we are. I believe we should also forget how old our friends are. Or better still, never give it a thought in the first place. So many other aspects are so much more important when making friends. 

       To attract a friend, or be attracted to them, there is usually something in common between you. It could be you belong to the same, club, have the same hobby. Maybe have the same job, or work for the same firm. Perhaps you are both parents, your children going to the same school. Or you live in the same street. Let's face it, the possibilities for striking up a friendship are endless. It could be you just like the look of each other. In exactly the same way, you might notice a member of the opposite sex. Something drew your attention to them, and something in them, spoke to you. 

          Next come speech doesn't it? You cannot keep smiling at each other, and say nothing. Although, at that point, you might decide, no, maybe not. They are idiots, or loud, or something else rubs you up the wrong way. You are cautious, or should be. For there are many more false freinds, than true. If you both decide to meet again, or speak more, then you are on your way! At that stage it is an embryonic friendship. You may never be more than aquaintances. Or, the routine of meeting, speaking, exchanging ideas, or sharing the routine, and events of your life will determine if you become closer.

         Often, its time....A friendship takes time to grow. It's more than a five minute thing. It's like a beautiful garden, you plant little seeds, and watch how they grow. You nurture them, care for them, and enjoy the wonder of them. If you care for each other properly, then what you build together can last for ever. True friendships can be stronger than marriages, last longer than any serious relationships.

A loyal friend will always want the best for you. A true friend will always tell you the truth, in a way you can handle. Will pick up the pieces, when you can't. Support you, when you no longer can support yourself. Either physically, or emotionally, a real friend will help you survive. Will listen to your worries, to your sorrows, and joys. To commiserate, or make you laugh. When all you want to do is cry. They never tell your secrets, nor are indifferent to your needs.

          I have such friends. They are few, but like diamonds without price. They helped make me who I am today.

          I thank the Universe for allowing me to find such friends. May I be blessed with their friendship for many years to come. May you too, be as lucky as I.

          Contact your friends today, and tell them how much you appreciate them.....remember,  they need cheering too.