Peter O 'Toole died yesterday, and OK, he had a good long life, and regular success in his chosen career. He had a magic, and eyes that promised... With his passing, what struck me, were the comments. When the news of his death broke. It said on the news, 'the outpouring of love for Peter O 'Toole has been amazing'. Which, is wonderful, except I could not help but think...I wonder if he knew anything of how, so many people felt. Or, did he think he was forgotten by most people? I don't suppose I shall ever know, but it begs another question. How could we find a way to show public figures, or our own family, how much we love them? Is the fact of their dying the only time we show such outpourings of love, and respect.
In my own little way, I made the the decision a long time ago, when my brother died. That I would always tell those close to me, how much I thought of them. I adored him, but we had spent long years apart, in different countries, and 'family like', we just got on with it. My family now, are used to hearing 'I love you', and I get it back from most of them. I also try to tell them when I am proud of them! and how well they have done.
I believe in positive affirmations, in giving someone some confidence. Especially if they are young, and still growing as a person. Although we only stop growing, when we leave this Earth, and no doubt not then. As for expressing my feelings, the more you do it, the more you say it, the easier it becomes. That shyness, or ambarassemnt that holds back many from saying nice, or loving things, wears away. Therefore, whether they appreciate it or not, I will continue to do it. As I can't think of anything worse then someone I love dying, and not knowing they were loved, or how much. Of course, you might say, of course they know, I do this, or that for them, or as I heard one husband say, 'we'll, I'm still here aren't I!'
I still don't think it's the same, some things need to be articulated. Susan Boyle, that fantastic singer, and also sometimes inept character, is a case in point. She has 'Aspergers', and it would have confused, and embarrassed her often when growing up, and still does. There was a programs last week sometime, where they showed not only her prodigious talent, but her struggles being a public persona. At the end, they interviewed her brother, or one of her brothers. Not terribly articulate himself, he said something like " I think she is wonderful, marvellous", and with an embarrassed grin, added, "but I would never tell her that". It really gave me pause for thought. Why not? Perhaps because it might be embarrassing for him, and no doubt for her too. But it needs to be expressed. Doesn't it?
My thoughts are still the same, if you have loved ones, tell them so. If someone near to you is doing their best, trying hard, or working well, tell them! Say what it is you admire, even if it causes some cringing with either one of you.Don't waste the opportunity, and wish later, when it's too late, that you had told them you loved them. Build their confidence, their security. Whilst at the same time, accustomed yourself to speaking love, as well a s feeling it.
Love makes the world go around. My favourite saying, again...make love, not war. It's an oldie, but a goodie.
It's Christmas, let's go for the feel good feelings
Let's spread love, and goodwill. When you can, 'pay it on'. Keep it moving, and growing. When I was little, I was told, 'if you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything'. I take that further, find something in what you see before you, that you can say something positive about.
Love, and peace to you all
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