Life....as we know it

     Full of surprises isn't it. No, life is never quite what you think, never going quite how you expect it to go. But that's life, isn't it. There is no point in bemoaning that fact is there. If you allow yourself to concentrate on all the things in your life which are not going well, or as well as you would like, then you will be wasting your time. Wasting not only your time, but wasting any opportunity to change anything within your life. In other words, you are accepting what you have as a 'fait accompli', and there it stops. It's as if you have dropped a heavy weight on top of everything, you stand no chance of it changing any time soon.

      We all have expectation, hopes, dreams or wishes. If they all happened just as we hope....wow, then it's magic. If you get it right. That's exactly what can happen....but how often do we? The chances are, life will not go that smoothly. It can't go perfectly all the time...can it? Well......it could if you are single minded, believe and work towards your goals, but.....You know what it's like, even on a good day, strange things happen. A bit of bad, luck, a little mistake, some stupidity, not always yours. Then, your expectations just do not work out. It can be so frustrating, so demoralising. So, what do you do?

      First off, always turn every defeat, every disappointment into a success. It's a matter of attitude. It's all about how you react to what is happening in your life. Of course, it's in your head...it's not that you actually turn the facts around just like that. Everything starts there, everything good or bad in the World today, once began as an idea, a thought. To improve your own situation start with your mind, your ideas, your positive thoughts. It's that you choose to concentrate on the good and positive points. Rather than the dissapointing ones. Chances are, if you expect disaster, that's what you get. No matter what happens. You must find something in 'the bad' to celebrate.

      Imagine if you break something...don't bewail the loss. Instead, start looking at other more beautiful items, imagine that in your home instead. Or, look at a photograph you once took of it. Attitude! If everything goes wrong with your day, take pleasure in finding a flower, a sunset, the nice weather...or enjoy the bad weather. Really it's all mainly attitude. How you react to it. I hear people say, "she made me so mad". No...no one can 'make' you mad. You choose to react in that way. Change it! You are the only one in charge of your head, your emotions.

      I was with someone the other day, who scowls at everyone, always expecting some slight, some insult. Well, guess what they saw most often in return....scowls, angry looks, dirty looks. Me, I go around like a little ray of sunshine. Even if I do not feel like it, I smile at people. O.K. Some may think I am a bit crazy, but who cares. I get a lot of smiles in return. Which in turn, helps me be happy, remain happy. Even if I get no positive responses, I know that my face is becoming set in happy lines, instead of miserable, discontented ones. So, it's a win, win for me.

       So, my friends, on the great stage of life, be happy, act happy and you will be happy. If you want to be a 'have,' instead of a 'have not', you make sure you keep expecting only good things. Remember the positive rules, expect good, or positive things to come your way. Then, even if you still keep getting bad, find something in the bad to say is good...concentrate on that. Soon, life WILL look up. From now on, you may have some bad luck, or poor results, but fail to acknowledge them. Turn every failure, into a success. Be blind to the bad in your life, deal with it as best you can, then forget it....think only of the good!