Yes, of course it's trust that is at the centre of this. Without being able to trust a person...what do you have....nothing. That's why a man, or the woman you love, your husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend whatever has to be trustworthy too. Isn't a good partnership liking as well as loving. Being able to rely on each other. Well, thats my take on it anyway. Perhaps I ask too much. Perhaps it's why I have spent more alone, than in a partnership. Perhaps I ask too much. But it seems to me that without being able to trust a partner like a good friend, it is a waste of time. But, I suppose I am diverting slightly from the path here. I was talking friends, not a relationship/ love story. It's just that trust is the key to all relationships.
As for my real friends, I don't rely on them to provide things I can't, it's not like that. I don't ask, or expect them to help get me out of trouble, nor to loan me money, never! Nor to take over the responsibilty of my life, or family. No, it's far more than that. They give me love, unconditional love. They offer emotional support of the best kind. The best thing I could wish for anyone I love, is such friends as I have. O.K. Sometimes they do give you practical help, and that is a bonus. We are only as strong as we are within ourselves.
Two friends, I have had since my schooldays. One girl since primary school, one since Secondary school, at twelve. If you count up the days we spent in each other's company, they are few. But I could contact either tomorrow and say can we meet, and they would move heaven and earth to do so. They would, and have found time for me over the years. Time to let me visit, let me into their lives, welcomed me to share whatever situation they are in. The primary school friend, pops up, in contact every few years. Somehow it happens, which is miraculous as I have moved and changed countries, so many times. Even now when she is the sole career for her husband, and we are the length of the country away, I hear from her. In the midst of her busy, and demanding day, she sends me jokes. My other dear school friend, has a busy life too, husband, children, and a big family who rely on her. Often with troubles of all sorts, but we communicate, we can tell each other anything. Knowing it will go no further. I value that, the fact that I can trust her absolutely.
I have a few others, one from new. Zealand. Who is there for me always. In person if we are on the same continent. Or by email or other means, if she is not. There have been times when she has saved my life. Just through being there for me. By listening or understanding. I hope I have been the same for her, There are a couple of new friends too, who I value already. The fact is exciting, and time will tell if they are the real deal or not. I suppose I just wanted to say, don't be afraid if your whole life is set to change. It's not that you are leaving your only good friends. Because they will remain your best friends in a different way, for ever. You can pick up where you left off at any point.
No, the exciting thing is, you can rest assured that there will be other best friends in whatever place you happen to be. Of course, me being spiritual, I believe that you have many Karmic attachments to explore. So no matter where you are, connections will appear. So, be positive about who comes into your life, and follow your instinct. We all have that instinct for good opportunities, or times we know to avoid someone, or something. The more you use it, the stronger you become. The stronger it, the instinct becomes. If on those occasions no one appears, I can guarantee I'm in the wrong place. If only I was always so fast at changing it. But sometimes,we let fear and habit control us too much.
Ah well, my friends...each one of you an embryonic good friend, thanks for listening. I only hope someone out there found these images of mine interesting or helpful. I know there have been times, when they would have helped me in the past. So enjoy your friends, have fun together. Tell them what they mean to you..and most of all, listen to them.
Happy days chaps...
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