Loss...is a big and emotive subject

       After all, it can be any kind of loss I'm talking about. The loss of a contact. A friend, a loved one, parent or sibling. It can be a permanent loss, a temporary one, or outcome unknown. It can be the loss of something you value. Such as a personal possession, or a lost opportunity. Worse sometimes, it can be loss of confidence, or trust, loss of self esteem...a loss of  self. Yes, there are losses of all kinds. As there are reactions of all kinds to each loss. Your reaction could be stoic, devastated, even an emotional breakdown, or any combination of a dozen vastly different emotions.....but for me, I must say that it's usually an emotional reaction. Even if it's only one of anger, or frustration, even if only fleeting. Or, it can be one of refusal to accept loss at its worst....the 'why, me?' Syndrome. 

         Many of us are unable to accept higher forces at work, ones you are not able to change completely. The having to accept drastic change was necessary, when you can't see it, when you think they, or you did not deserve it. As I was told long ago, so...it's not fair, well...who said life was fair? This life can be many things, but fair is not one of them. It's not been unknown for me to rail at the skies in anguish. To shout out my anger, frustration or helplessness at its unfairness. Which doesn't help...does it? You know, especially if you lose a loved one long before their time....except it's never before their time. If they have gone from this vale, then it was their time, hard as that may be to accept. I believe you go when it is your time. No, I know, that doesn't help to make it easier either, because it's not always near, or pretty. Really we are only very small cogs in the big wheel that is the Universe.

          We know we cannot get through life without loss of some sort...but that doesn't mean we have to wait for it. I know people who go through every day, expecting and saying they expect the worst. Oh, that won't work, this won't be good, this will be a disaster. Or this must crash and burn, No, it's dangerous, don't do it. You can't live like that. I believe one of the greatest things you can give anyone, is hope. That applies to yourself too, allow yourself hope instead of constant apprehension and fear. Relax into trust....go with the flow, even the worst things must be followed through to its conclusion. Those vibes you send out, attract others on that same wavelength back to you. So, my friends...raise your expectations and the rewards will follow.

           No, it won't stop the deaths, disasters and set backs. But it will enable you to get through them with the minimum stress. Give thanks they are no longer suffering, or the last fun time you shared, or a sunset you saw together. No, we don't have to be destroyed by them. My attitude always is, go through life with a positive attitude. Expect the best results, the best things to come your way. I know, you can't sustain it every second of the day. But, when the opposite emotion strikes and you feel fear, or dread search it! Search through the situation, the fear and find something you can applaud, something you can give thanks for. Because it's when you get beaten down by circumstances, or life, without picking yourself up, that worse disaster strikes. Further disaster, bigger problems and horror. Honestly, the only way is to be positive...even when it seems futile. Build up the positive picture...see everything happening in the perfect way, in your minds eye.

            That's a wonderful expression isn't it....in your minds eye. That is exactly IT! As you see things in the eye of your mind. Not your actual vision. But inside your head.....with your higher self...all that airy fairy stuff, as some call it, really works. You never have to profess what you're doing, just do it. So, never mind what you see before you, skim over it, replace it...'in your minds eye' with the perfect picture. It works for me, it can work for you. It only takes a bit of practice and self belief. The best things in life are yours for the taking. The best support system, the best health, the best situation, anything my friends, anything! The more you can persuade yourself to believe, the more you can achieve. So, change what you can and accept what you can't change.

         So, if a loved is injured or in hospital, give thanks they are receiving treatment and will survive. Or, give thanks it is only them and not their child, or the whole family. Give thanks they are having a break, some sort of rest they badly need. It may not be in the best way, but the body is sneaky entity. It will organise a way to get what it needs. Give thanks they are in a place with either affordable, or good health care. If it's a financial disaster, give thanks they are healthy, they can earn again. Or that they know where to get help, or have good friends supporting them. Give thanks they are young enough to begin again, or have the imagination to find another way around the problem. If they cannot do any of those things, then give thanks that there is a need to make drastic changes in their life. Which in time, will prove to be for the best. 

         Sometimes, in the midst of a distasteful, or a setback we cannot see any positives. Yet that is the exact time we must do so. The exact time we must search the hardest for any glimmer of hope, or any sliver of a positive viewpoint. Accept calmly, give thanks for all the good things in your life and trust......Trust that you will come through this and emerge stronger, no less! Yes, because it's as they say...whatever does not kill you, makes you stronger! I've seen that proved many times. So...trust, chill and be positive. Believe and accept that what comes after, will be better, than what you had before.........BELIEVE........and it shall be so.

            To anyone with any problems, worries or setback tonight, I am sending love, strength and healing. May the Universe be at one with you at this time. Tap into its strength and believe.

            Sleep well, rise well and spend your day well.